An essential portion of the mourning culture during the Victorian Era was the memorialization of the deceased. Once again, the memorializing of loved ones fell to the women, as they were considered memory vessels for the family. In this practice, women were given power in a world where their range of influence was limited.
One way some women memorialized the dead was through the creation of a physical reminder of the deceased’s life and accomplishments. Often written, this physical record was usually a document placed in the family Bible or a special printed memorial card. More time-consuming records were created, mainly in the form of samplers. Samplers were used by middle- and upper-class girls’ to instruct in docility and to teach how to sit still with downcast eyes for long periods of time. Samplers created a memorial for a family member. These pieces of embroidered art were also a point of pride for the young women, who would add their name to the work, ensuring viewers would know who created it.
Another popular practice was the art of hair working. Extremely delicate and intricate work, women created and wore jewelry made from hair of the deceased in addition to creating large hair wreaths. Often the deceased’s hair was intertwined with their own hair, symbolically cementing the bond between them. Godey’s Lady’s Book, a popular woman’s magazine, offered lessons in hair work; “Do-It-Yourself” hair working kits were also widely available. Businesses formed where consumers could send loved one’s hair and the memorial piece would be made for them.
By the time Queen Victoria died at the turn of the century, the elaborate mourning culture had largely disappeared. Certain customs from this time have reappeared throughout the next century, particularly during wartime, but most of the traditions followed by Victorians are no longer practiced.
How do you memorialize today?
Caitlin Smith, History Collections Intern
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